The Pressure to Heal the ‘Right’ Way
Self-growth has become a performance. Perfect journals, aesthetic morning routines, picture-perfect self-care days. Healing has been turned into something we can show off, rather than something we actually feel.
But real healing? It’s quiet, messy, and rarely Instagrammable. It’s crying in your car before work. It’s setting an awkward boundary and feeling your stomach flip. It’s realizing healing isn’t about appearing healed — it’s about being real with yourself.
What Performed Healing Looks Like
- Chasing Self-Improvement: Reading every book, taking every course — but never pausing to ask how you actually feel.
- Perfecting Self-Care: Yoga, journaling, and green smoothies — but only if they look good from the outside.
- Outrunning Your Feelings: Keeping busy with “growth” so you never have to sit with your pain.
Why We Do It
Performed healing protects us. It keeps us in control. But it also keeps us disconnected from our truth.
What Real Healing Feels Like
- Uneven: Progress one day, regression the next.
- Raw: Sitting with feelings you’d rather avoid.
- Unshareable: Some breakthroughs are too personal to post.
How to Drop the Performance and Feel Your Way Through
- Pause Before Performing: When you catch yourself “doing self-care” for the sake of it, ask — is this for me or for someone else?
- Sit with the Discomfort: Healing happens when you stop outrunning your feelings and start listening to them.
- Make Space for Unpretty Progress: Some healing looks like crying in bed — and that counts too.
- Redefine Growth: It’s not about looking healed. It’s about feeling real.
Final Reminder
You don’t have to prove your healing to anyone. Your path is yours — unfiltered, unfinished, and beautifully real.
Glow & Grow 
Hozzászólás