Okay, let’s just put this out there: moms are expected to be superheroes. We’re supposed to handle everything—work, kids, house, emotional support, meal planning, remembering where everyone’s stuff is (because apparently, no one else can find anything). And if we dare take a break? Cue the guilt trip.
For the longest time, I fell into that trap. Anytime I did something just for myself—whether it was a solo coffee run, a night out with friends, or even sitting alone in my car for five minutes—I felt the need to justify it.
“Oh, I just ran out for a bit, but I’ll be right back!”
“I took a nap, but don’t worry—I’ll catch up on everything later.”
“Yes, I got a pedicure, but I was working the whole time on my phone!”
It’s like I needed a permission slip to take care of myself. But guess what? I don’t anymore. And neither should you.
Self-Care Isn’t Selfish—It’s Survival
Somewhere along the way, we started equating “me time” with being neglectful. Like taking 30 minutes to read a book means we’ve suddenly abandoned our children.
Here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of yourself if you want to take care of others. And when you do? You’re actually a better parent, partner, and human in general.
Because a burnt-out, exhausted, overworked mom is not a happy mom. And let’s be honest—our kids pick up on that. They don’t need a perfect mom; they need a mom who’s sane and present.
Reframing the Guilt
Every time I used to take a break, I’d hear this nagging voice in my head: Shouldn’t you be doing something more productive?
So, I started flipping the script. Instead of:
❌ “I shouldn’t take time for myself.”
I tell myself:
✅ “I deserve to recharge so I can be my best self.”
Instead of:
❌ “I’m being lazy.”
I remind myself:
✅ “Rest is productive, too.”
Instead of:
❌ “Other moms are handling more than me.”
I say:
✅ “Comparison is a trap. My needs matter.”
The guilt doesn’t disappear overnight, but the more you challenge it, the quieter it gets.
How to Start Prioritizing Yourself—Without Apologizing
1️⃣ Schedule It Like an Appointment
If you wait for “free time” to appear, it never will. Put it on your calendar, set a reminder, and treat it as non-negotiable.
2️⃣ Start Small
Self-care doesn’t have to be a full spa day (though, let’s be real, that would be nice). It can be as simple as drinking your coffee while it’s still hot, taking a walk alone, or watching a show without interruptions.
3️⃣ Set Boundaries
Let your family know that your time matters too. It’s okay to tell your kids, “Mom is reading right now. I’ll help you in 15 minutes.” They’ll survive.
4️⃣ Drop the Guilt
Easier said than done, I know. But remind yourself: you are not a machine. Taking breaks doesn’t make you a bad mom—it makes you a human one.
Final Thoughts
I stopped apologizing for taking time for myself because, honestly? I needed it. And you do, too.
So the next time you feel guilty about stepping away, remember: you’re not just doing it for you—you’re doing it for your family, too. Because a mom who takes care of herself is a mom who thrives.
Now, if you need me, I’ll be sipping my coffee in peace—and I won’t be saying sorry for it.
Glow & Grow 
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