Glow & Grow

(Without Losing Your Sanity)

As parents, we dream of the day our kids can do things on their own—tie their shoes, make a sandwich, or (dare we say) clean up their own messes. But let’s be real: teaching independence isn’t always smooth sailing. Sometimes, it’s just so much faster to do things yourself. (Ever tried waiting 10 minutes for a toddler to zip their coat? Yeah.)

Still, helping kids become independent is worth it. It saves you time in the long run, builds their confidence, and, let’s be honest, gives you a well-earned break.

Why Independence Matters

Kids who learn to do things for themselves:
✔ Feel more confident in their abilities
✔ Develop problem-solving skills
✔ Learn responsibility (because, news flash, you won’t be packing their lunch when they’re 25)

The trick? Teaching independence in small steps—without completely losing your mind in the process.

Easy Ways to Encourage Independence

1. Start With Small Tasks
   Give them age-appropriate responsibilities. A three-year-old can put toys away. A six-year-old can make their bed (even if it looks like a tornado did it).
2. Let Them Struggle (A Little)
   I know—it’s so tempting to swoop in when they’re frustrated. But struggling is how they learn. Offer encouragement, but let them figure things out.
3. Give Choices, Not Commands
   Instead of “Put on your jacket,” try “Do you want to wear your red jacket or blue one?” Choices = instant cooperation (most of the time).
4. Teach One Skill at a Time
   Don’t expect them to master laundry, cooking, and shoe-tying in one week. Introduce new skills gradually.
5. Make It Fun
   Turn chores into a game. Who can put away toys the fastest? Who can set the table first? Bonus: Less whining!
6. Praise the Effort, Not Just the Outcome
   Even if their attempt at making a sandwich results in peanut butter everywhere, focus on the effort. “Wow, you made your own lunch! That’s awesome!”
7. Model Independence
   Kids learn by watching. Show them how you stay organized, make decisions, and solve problems.

Final Thoughts

Teaching kids to be independent takes patience (and sometimes, a deep breath or two). But every small step brings them closer to being capable, confident, and—one day—fully functioning adults. So, what’s one thing your child can do on their own today?